Pithy Pieces From the Book



I did not anticipate writing this book. It started when someone once asked me if I had ever missed being a male. I thought about it for a while but couldn’t think of anything significant I missed, apart perhaps from no longer having pockets. But then again, I’m kind of a “girly girl.” Which to the amazement of my GG friends (genetic girls) who primarily dress androgynously anyway, and who sometimes ask why I wear such girly clothes, my answer is, ‘Because I can.’ At least I can now. That’s the only big change I’ve come across so far in my gender “transition.” And besides, who wants to wear all those boring guy clothes?”


Who I Am

“I am a transgender woman. This means that my assigned gender at birth doesn’t match the gender I identify with today. For most of my life, I didn’t understand what this meant nor could I articulate this in any coherent way. I also realized later in life that I have managed to suppress a great deal of this from the earlier part of my life.”


Gender Identity

“I’ve never had any significant gender identity “issues.” I’ve only had a gender identity just like everyone else. It’s just that my identity was simply different than that of most other people.”


Not a Choice

“No matter the cause, transgender is, and has always been, a part of me. It’s not a choice I made nor a “lifestyle” I chose, nor would I have if I could. If I could have, I would have chosen to be born congruent in mind and body. I didn’t choose this, but I’m making the best of what I have and who I am.”



“Being transgender is a mental, emotional, physical, and psychological phenomenon. It can also cause a myriad of medical issues, such as depression, anxiety, suicidal ideation, and possibly death. This can happen when you try to suppress your authentic self. Without professional help and/or treatment, a large network of supportive friends, colleagues, and most of my family members, I, too, would most likely be dead today.”


“Socrates, choosing death instead of exile from Athens or holding his tongue in silence, observed famously that “an unexamined life is not worth living.” Now, when I look into a mirror, my life simply seems normal. In that spirit, I cannot be anyone other than who I am.”


Moving Away from Misinformation

“We need to eliminate the artificial boxes that attempt to create categories for the highly complex world of gender, sex, and body type, and identify the barriers to transgender knowledge, understanding, and equality. We need to have informed, intelligent discussions about how to create a message that removes these barriers through accuracy, timeliness, and comprehensiveness. Doing so can raise the bar of what we’re capable of accomplishing as a society when we move out of the compendium of misinformation.”